John Birger is back at it again! Another book, no closer to solutions.

By Carly Sackellares, MSW

Jon Birger, the author of Date-onomics, self-admittedly asserts that his best-selling, critically acclaimed book missed the mark in terms of offering a solution for improving modern dating tactics. In it, he profiles his perceived mismatch between women and men in the dating pool. Specifically, Birger notes there are now more college-educated women than college-educated men.

In his new book, Make Your Move: The New Science of Dating and Why Women Are in Charge, Birger encourages women to be bolder. He pushes back on online dating apps and instead suggests considering prospects from your everyday life—those intriguing acquaintances who you may have been too scared or embarrassed to approach before.

While, of course, potential matches can be found both digitally and in the “real world,” Birger fails to address the obstacles that prevent people from pursuing romance outside of their cushy, technology bubble. Most considerably, those fight-flighty little kid feelings that fear rejection.

Here’s where Naked Online: A DoZen Ways to Grow from Internet Dating comes into play! By using the guidebook, online daters can shift their mindset from finding “the one” to using online dating to practice romantic interactions. Searching for “the one,” puts unrealistic pressure on the dating experience. Naked Online helps us build confidence in our relationship skills. By staying mindful in the process, online dating becomes less of a chore and more like ballroom dancing—a chance to meet new people and practice romantic dances, one step at a time.

Dee Wagner has helped many online daters use online dating to improve relationship skills, which has organically led to clients becoming “bolder” with in-person prospects. Dee has seen many clients—who after working through Naked Online—gained the confidence to approach and have found a successful partnership with someone they had known all along.